i once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with a little water and held it before me, and said this:
我曾有個(gè)朋友，我們的關(guān)系很親密。有一次我們坐在游泳池邊上，她載手掌里盛了點(diǎn)兒水，捧在我面前，說:
you see this water carefully contained on my hand? it symbolizes love. as long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. however, if you attempt to close your fingers around it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds.this is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love… they try to posses it, they demand, they expect… and just like the water spillin out of your hand, love will retrieve from you.
你仔細(xì)看我手上這水了嗎？那代表愛。只要你充滿關(guān)愛地彎曲著你的手指，并允許它保持在那兒，它會(huì)永遠(yuǎn)在那兒。但是，如果你試圖把你的手指在它周圍合起并試圖占有它，它會(huì)通過它找到的縫溢出去。這是人們當(dāng)他們遇到愛時(shí)犯的最大的錯(cuò)誤…他們?cè)噲D占有它，他們要求，他們期待，那樣就像溢出你的手掌的水一樣，愛會(huì)從你身邊撤退。
for love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature.
因?yàn)閻垡馕吨�自由隨意,你不能改變它的本性。
if you have people you love, allow them to be free beings. give and don't expect. advise, but don't order. ask, but never demand. it might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. it is the secret to true love. to truly practice it, you must sincerely feelno expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring.
如果你有愛的人，允許他們自由隨意的存在。給予而不指望；建議而不命令；請(qǐng)求而不要求；可能聽起來簡(jiǎn)單，但這需要一輩子去實(shí)踐。這就是真愛的秘訣。真正去實(shí)踐它，你必須對(duì)那些你愛的人沒有期望，并給予無條件的關(guān)愛。